Don’t tell her she’s beautiful or gorgeous quite yet. Though this is a nice compliment, if you tell her too early, she may feel like you’re coming on too strong or being insincere. In your very first or second conversation, try to sneak in a subtle compliment that makes her see that you really see her as an individual, not just as any other girl. You can compliment aspects of her personality, too. Like a strong sense of responsibility, strength of character, morals, etc.
If she has any pets – if she does, what breed or what kind of cat or dog does she have? If she has siblings, what are their names, gender, what do they do, etc. ? What her favorite movies, bands, books are? What her hobbies are and what she likes about her hobbies? What her job or classes are like for her?
If you take her out to a movie, ask her what she actually wants to see. When you walk out, you should ask her what she thought of the movie. If you pick her up and are listening to music, ask, “What CD’s do you have in your car?” If you’re making a life decision and are close enough for her opinion to matter, don’t make it without asking what she thinks first.
Really listening to her will also make her see that you’re interested in her mind just as much as you care about her body. Listening to her carefully can also help you get a sense of what she likes and doesn’t like, so you can get her the perfect thoughtful gift when the time comes.
When you pick her up, don’t just wait in your car and honk your horn. Get your butt out and knock on her door. When she does get in your car, open the door for her. Open doors for her and pull out her chair for her. Always let her walk in front of you. Ask her if she’s comfortable from time to time. Is she too cold or too hot? Offer her your jacket or hang up her coat. Always start off a date with a compliment to her. She made an effort, so tell her she looks beautiful, stunning, pretty, or both beautiful and stunning.
This doesn’t mean that you should start doing a whole bunch of things that seem completely boring to you. It does mean that you should show that you care about the girl’s interests and that you’ll support her as much as you can.
This doesn’t mean you have to be creepy and gaze into the girl’s eyes 100% of the time, but when she’s talking to you and you’re really listening, take a look into her eyes to show that you care about her. Making eye contact will also make it easier for you to be really attuned to your girl’s feelings. If you look away from her face, you may not see that she’s really upset or agitated until it’s way too late for you to do it.
If you’re at the movies or walking around, hold her hand for at least a part of it – if she wants you to hold her hand. If you’re on the couch together, don’t forget to snuggle or cuddle with her to make her feel special and loved. When taking photographs, you can put an arm around her to make her feel close to you for the photo If you’re talking and she’s upset, put a hand on her knee, stroke her arm, or hold her hand to let her know you care about her. When you greet her and kiss her, run your hands through her hair or touch the back of her head slightly but not too much. Don’t forget to touch her playfully. Picking her up, or just playfully swatting each other is a great way to show affection to each other.
If she’s really into sports, be there to watch her games when you can, or at least don’t forget to ask how it went for her sports games like a baseball game, basketball game. If she has a tough exam coming up, help her study, or support her by bringing her lunch or offering to do small favors for her while she studies for her exam. If she’s having a stressful week at work, take it easy on her. Help her relax by planning a stress-free night in and don’t bring up any big questions right then and there.
And once you’re kissing, make sure you give her a kiss every time you see her without making her feel neglected or a nobody. Not every kiss has to be a full-on French kiss. A gentle kiss on the lips is a great way to show you care about her and to mix things up right away. Before leaning in for an unexpected kiss, make sure you know your girl well enough to recognize that she’ll be comfortable with this.
Romance doesn’t have to mean chocolate. It just means making time to show each other that you care about each other.
Though it’s important to let her see how much you care when you’re together, it’s equally important for her to see that she’s on your mind when you’re apart.
Of course, she should do the little things for you, too. You don’t have to become her errand boy to make her see that you really care about her.
Take a random weekend trip to a place you’ve never been before. Try food from a country you’ve never even heard of. Do a cartwheel in the middle of the street. And don’t underestimate the spontaneous hug, kiss, or compliment.
This could mean running a marathon together, learning to scuba dive, or even learning a new language. When a new task is presented, have the “say yes” mentality, instead of saying “no” and thinking of all the reasons why it wouldn’t be a good idea.
Even if you don’t quite hit it off with her friends right away, give them a chance. If you stick with the girl, it’s likely they’ll be a part of your life forever. Sure, family events aren’t always the most fun, but don’t complain about it. If you really care about her, then you have to really care about her family – even if you’d rather be watching the big game than hanging out at her uncle’s birthday party.
If you both have your separate friends and interests and have parts of your relationship that don’t intersect, your relationship will be stronger when you do spend time together.
If you already reached the “I love you” phase, make sure to say it at least once a day to keep showing that you care about her.
