We are all equal, we all get nervous, and we are all human. Most girls aren’t mean or rude, so if they don’t want to talk to you, they won’t hurt your feelings It’s better approaching her and knowing the outcome, than never doing it and being left wondering what would’ve happened.
If you’ve talked to her before, and she knows who you are then it shouldn’t be too difficult. If not, all you’ve got to do is introduce yourself and have a conversation.
For example, if your school football team won a sectional title, you could say “Hey, did you see the game last night?”. This will open up for a great conversation. If the girl says she didn’t see the game though, don’t press her with details about what happened and give her a play-by-play synopsis. Instead, turn the conversation toward her and ask her if she plays or follows any sports.
Find out things you have in common, like a favorite band or sport. That will give you a common subject to talk about. If you go to school together, walk up to her in the halls and say hello after you’ve talked in class a couple times. You will make a good impression if you do nice things, like holding a door for her to go through or tying her shoe if you notice it has come undone. Do not go out of your way to do these things all the time. She will think it is weird instead of sweet.
Don’t ask her specifically to something and build it up. Instead, arrange something with a group of friends and say she is welcome to come along. That way, if she can’t make it, no harm done and you can recover from the rejection without problems. When inviting her out, it has to be something fun that isn’t a big deal for her to join in on. You want to avoid the awkward staring at your hands/feet mumbling about “what she is up to that weekend”.
Make sure she is in a good mood as well – if she had a terrible day or seems cross, wait until she is in a better mood. Whenever possible, ask her out in person. It may be harder and more nerve-wracking, but you’re more likely to succeed and can gauge her response in person.
“I’ve really enjoyed spending time together, and I’d love to take you on a date. " “Would you want to go out with me on a date this weekend?” “Let’s grab dinner sometime, just the two of us?” “I really enjoy your friendship, and I’d like to try taking things a step further. "
“Great! How about dinner on Thursday?” or “There is a great play Saturday at 8 I was interested in, want to join me?” Have at least one back-up date in case she is busy, or ask her when a good time is if that fails too.
Count to 3 and make yourself ask when you get to zero. Avoid talking too much beforehand. Say hello, ask how she is doing, then get right to the point. The longer you wait, the colder your feet are going to get. Once you know you want to ask her out, you need to go ahead and do it.
“I’m a bit nervous to say this, but. . . " “I know I seem kind of awkward, but I want you to know how I feel. "
