It can help to write down your feelings, potentially as a letter to her. You don’t have to send it, but writing down your feelings can help you get a handle on them.
If you don’t talk often, try and get her to initiate conversation. Hang out with her and her friends, sit next to her at class, and put yourself in a place to chat.
“I think you’re great, and would love a chance to get to know you more. " “I really enjoy our friendship, and I was hoping we could go on a date or two to see where things go. " “Let’s go out on a date sometime. "
If you aren’t naturally funny, that is okay too. Finding humor in a situation is more about finding the best side of yourself, even when things get awkward.
Count to 3 in your head– when you get to zero, you have to say it. Avoid chit-chatting beforehand. Say hello, ask how she is doing, then launch right in.
“I’m a bit nervous to say this, but. . . " “I know I seem kind of awkward, but I want you to know how I feel. "
Does she spend time with you? Do you have fun together?
This can be a “practice round,” helping you sort out your feelings.
Closing her body off by folding her arms, avoiding eye-contact, or making excuses not to talk are often signs that she is not interested.
