For example, you might say something like, “You hurt my feelings when you made fun of my dress. It made me feel bad about my appearance. ”

You might say “So. . . Karen, are you just noticing that I have glasses? Cause I’ve had them for eight years. Maybe you need glasses, girl!” Avoid making a joke or laughing if it’s your boss or parents who are insulting you. Instead say “What makes you say that?”

Say something like “Oh, did y’all see the big Instagram fight Rob and Blac Chyna had? It was so crazy!”

For instance, if they insult your shirt, you can say “I really like your shirt. It’s pretty. Where’d you buy it?”

If you’re in a class together, ask if your teacher can sit you away from them. You can also ask to leave a few minutes early so you can avoid them when walking out.

If you want, you can tell your friend what’s going on with the bully or you can just simply ask them to walk with you.

You might say, “Josh, this whole insulting me thing is getting old. I have been patient with you, but I’m not gonna take it anymore. I need you to stop. ” You can practice this speech in the mirror at home a few times before doing it in person.

Say “Do you remember Eric? Well, he’ll be there tonight and I’m so worried. Can you come with me and have my back? I don’t want to be alone. ”

You might say, “Hey Mom, I wanna talk to you about something. There’s this kid Bob in my class, and he’s really mean to me. I’ve tried a few things, but he won’t stop. I don’t know what to do. ” But, if the bully is your parent, talk to another relative like a grandfather or aunt.

You can rip the paper into little pieces when you’re done writing.

Say, “Hey, something has been bothering me for a while. My boss is kind of a jerk to me. She puts me down and sometimes even calls me names. Have you ever had a boss like that?”

Write down that time the sales clerk said you were pretty or when you got an academic award from your school.

For instance, you might look yourself in the mirror and say, “Brittany, you are an awesome chick. You are so smart, funny and beautiful. Today is going to be the best day you’ve ever had. ”