If she holds your hand or moves closer to you, you can put an arm around her and see how she reacts to that. Ask if it’s okay if you can’t tell what she wants.

Go for a hug and a kiss on the cheek first. [1] X Expert Source Connell BarrettDating Coach Expert Interview. 24 September 2019. If she moves away, squeezes you quickly and lets go, or seems otherwise uninterested, thank her for the nice evening and leave. If she holds on, moves closer, or offers you her lips, kiss her.

If you can’t dance, or have been talking and feel ready, ask her to join you for a slow song. You can hold her close during a slow song, as long as she seems comfortable. Don’t squeeze her or force her against you, however. Ask if she’s good when you’re in position. If the dance is going well, you can try moving your face close to hers and wait for her reaction. Don’t grab her on a whim. Even if she’s into you, she might not be into blatant public groping. Ask first. Don’t just start dancing against someone you don’t know.

Notice how she dresses on a regular basis compared to how she dresses when the two of you spend time alone. If she dresses up when she is with you, then she might be attracted to you. Pay attention to whether she leans in to you when she is speaking and whether she touches your arm or leg while she is talking to you. [3] X Expert Source Connell BarrettDating Coach Expert Interview. 24 September 2019. These are possible signs that she is flirting. If she always chooses to sit on the opposite side of the couch or pulls away from you when you try to hug her or dance with her, then she’s probably not interested. Notice how she looks at you. Does she smile at you? Do you catch her looking at you when you’re in a group? Does she laugh at your jokes when other people don’t? She may be laughing because she likes you and your goofy moods cheer her up. Check to see that she wants to be alone with you. If she wants you to make a move on her, then she will suggest doing activities that allow the two of you to be alone. If she only wants to spend time with you when others are around, then she might prefer your friendship as it is.

Asking can be just as fun and sexy as going for it. Enjoy the awkwardness. Ask in person, or write a note. You can say any of the following: “I think about you a lot. I like you. I’ve been trying to figure out if you like me back, or if you’re just a really great friend. It’s cool either way, but—if you like me, let’s go out sometime. " Add some compliments. Go for romantic rather than sexual, as you don’t want to make her uncomfortable if she just wants to be friends. Compliment her style or say she has beautiful eyes, a great sense of humor, and a special way about her you just can’t put into words. [4] X Expert Source Connell BarrettDating Coach Expert Interview. 24 September 2019. Be prepared for a yes! Have a date plan. Ask her somewhere beautiful, where you can be alone without the rest of your friends showing up or tagging along.

If you always hug, make your move by holding on. If she freezes or moves away, let her go. If she gets closer or holds on to you tighter, you can try for a kiss. Check in after. If you make a physical move, make sure she is enthusiastically consenting.

Consent must be freely given. Someone who is being pressured cannot give consent. If she is scared of you, or someone else is pressuring her, or if you are older, or if you have any power over her, she cannot give consent. If you are more than two years older or younger than her, it may be illegal for you to make a move on her, or for her to make a move on you. [6] X Research source Check the laws of age of consent in your state before you make a move on someone who isn’t your age.

Stop immediately if she gives any signs of withdrawing consent. If she seems hesitant, but says she is ready, try going slowly. Make a game of it. Take turns initiating touch, or have her tell you what to do.

For instance, say “May I kiss you?” “Can I hold you?” “I’d like to touch you there. Would you like that?” Remember, consent can be withdrawn any time. If she said “yes” to one thing, it doesn’t mean “yes every time” or “yes to everything else. " Keep checking in.

Once you’ve made your move, and she doesn’t encourage you, back off. She’ll tell you if she changes her mind.