If she can’t talk when you call, ask when it will be a good time to call back. She might be at work or at an appointment. Let her choose a time for you to call her, and then be sure to call her at that time.

If you have a really bad cold and your nose is plugged up, it will be harder for her to understand you over the phone. You can still call to say hi, but keep the conversation short. Cut your conversation short by telling her you’re going to get some rest so you can be well for when you get together in person.

Try to keep your voice modulated so you’re not shouting or yelling. You can certainly exclaim if the conversation calls for it, but being too emphatic over the phone can come across the wrong way.

Try recording your voice when you’re smiling and when you’re not smiling. Listen to the difference in your voice.

Don’t joke so much that everything you say is a joke. Remember, she’s just getting to know you, so show her that she can trust what you say. You might tease her a little, but don’t be mean. Be sure to listen carefully to her response. If she seems to get colder when you tease her, let up.

You can also follow up on something that you talked about in a previous conversation.

When you get into a relationship with this girl, then you can think about making the conversation more risqué, but only if she’s comfortable with that. For now, however, keep it clean.

Show interest in her life, although be careful about asking too many questions about her friends. She might get the wrong idea and think you’re more interested in one of them than you are interested in her.

Make a light joke. If the girl says she’d like to meet at 3 o’clock, you can say, “I don’t think I want to stuck with you all day. Let’s meet up at 3:03 instead. ”

Some people start to feel uncomfortable with too many compliments. Keep your compliments light yet meaningful, and don’t go overboard.

If you pay attention to what she says, she’ll feel encouraged to keep talking.

Stay away from texting something boring like, “How are you?” This will probably only get you a boring answer and it won’t engage her very much.